I hate my boss, you think as you get another email about the same issue you discussed not 15 minutes ago. The boss is always doing something to annoy you or never … fill in the blank. It’s ok to have an occasional bad day at work and blame your supervisor.
That’s not what we are talking about here. We are diving into the hate that fills you every work day, the dread you feel when you wake up in the morning and that awful feeling when you tick off another day at a job you really hate.
Take a deep breath, and know that you are not alone in despising your job, your work or your co-workers. The Conference Board’s Job Satisfaction 2020 survey showed job satisfaction at 56.3%. Other studies have shown more than a quarter of workers are not satisfied with their job.
In this article, we will look at a few common scenarios, then we will get into steps you can take to ease the hate and at least make things tolerable while you plan your escape.
40 Affirmations for When You Hate Your Job
Scenario 1: I Hate My Boss, Love My Job
The bright side about this scenario is that it gives us something to work with. There are aspects of your day or week that you probably enjoy because you love what you do. It’s just your boss who sucks.
Also, your goal here is to work for someone else, not start a new career or stop working entirely. This is a much less disruptive situation that can be solved in two ways.
Solution 1: Treat the Boss Like Broccoli
Remember when you were a kid and Mom made you eat some food you really didn’t like? You avoided the broccoli or other hated food.
You secretly fed it to the dog, hid it in a napkin or took a couple of bites to get it off your plate. At work, you should interact with your boss as little as possible.
Be cordial when you must interact with him or her. This strategy of flying under the radar won’t be easy with a micromanager, but you don’t want to make any attempts to interact with a bad boss.
If you have to interact with him or her, try to save the unpleasantness for the end of the day so you can leave afterward. If you have a trusted coworker that the boss likes, you can also ask the co-worker to ask the boss a question or make a suggestion.
The point of this strategy is to lay low and not get noticed, good or bad.
Solution 2: Get a New Boss Fast
Is there a possibility of a transfer to a new team or department? Maybe your company has more than one location and you don’t mind a longer commute.
Look in your company for jobs related to what you do and start talking to people in those areas. They will be the first ones to tell you if a new job becomes available. You may also want to consider leaving the company. Finding a new place to work is much easier than changing careers.
Scenario 2: I Hate My Boss and Hate My Job
This state of mind is a little more tricky to deal with. It’s like the chicken for the egg question. Do you hate your boss because you hate your work? Or do your hate your work because you hat your boss?
Or is it really both? In any case, you do not want to complain to coworkers about how unhappy you are. This tactic could backfire, or worse yet, someone could tell your boss.
Also do not go on social media and post a bunch a of things about hating your job. You will get seen and you could get fired. Many companies are now cracking down on comments made on social media. It’s best to keep your unhappiness offline.
Why Do I Hate My Boss?
You have to ask yourself why you hate your boss. Here are a few common reasons people hate their managers.
My Boss is a Narcissist
A narcissistic personality — one where the person is entitled, grandiose and views the rest of humanity like tools to benefit them, is difficult to work with. They don’t value the people they work with, but rather use them to validate their existence.
The narcissistic boss changes the rules in mid game, the rules they make don’t apply to them, and they will twist the truth to ensure they win and you lose.
Add to this the power they have over your career and paycheck and it’s a recipe for your demise. If you work for a narcissist you have to leave that job. Nothing will change and eventually the narcissist will find a way to get rid of you. That being said, you can buy some time by laying low, not taking the narcissist’s bait and fluffing them up, it you can say it with a straight face.
My Boss is Lazy
There are bosses who are lazy and bosses who appear to be lazy. Some bosses are actually busy working the behind-the-scenes stuff so that you can continue to have a job. Doing budgets, planning projects, talking with higher-ups in the company doesn’t seem like being busy because it’s not. But these big picture duties can have a direct impact on your job.
On the other hand, there are bosses who come in late, watch sports in their office all day and call it a day right after lunch. They don’t keep up with their team and then don’t want to. In this case, be glad that he or she leaves you alone and use the time to pursue additional certification or training. Focus on improving yourself so you can get the heck out of there.
I Hate My Job, But I Can’t Quit, Or Should I?
When you are in a job you hate and can’t quit because it pays well, or you have no other options. It’s time to diversify. Now with the work force transitioning back to normalcy, there are tons of jobs open that people need filled. Many of them are at restaurants and service industry related.
Here’s a 6-Step Plan For Quitting Your Job
- Decide that today or a day within the next week is the day you are mentally and emotionally disconnecting from the job that your hate. When you stop allowing your energy to go to something you hate, you can put it toward changing your life.
- Give yourself a deadline to resign from your job. It can be 6 months, or a year or two down the road. But allow yourself to see the homestretch. Write it down.
- Write that date on your resignation letter and write your resignation letter.
- Take on a part time gig to save money so you can buy yourself a few months of freedom in between jobs. Doordash, stock groceries, anything to get some extra cash.
- Dust off that resume and start looking for a new job. Use online job boards such as Indeed.com
- Network. Network. Network. Reach out to old coworkers, friends, family, friends of friends, family of friends of friends — you get the idea. Let them know you are looking for a new career opportunity and do they know of anyone who might be looking for a … you fill in the blank. That’s it. Keep going until you have a new job.
Everyone can quit a job, that’s the easy part. It’s what comes next that is the hard work. If you have things in place to make the transition easier, you wonder why you waited so long to go.