8 Ways to Keep a Positive Attitude, Even When You Want to Cry, With Quotes


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First off, if you want to cry, pull up a pillow and have a good sob. Having a positive attitude isn’t shoving down the anger, fear, or sadness and putting on a smile.

In fact, having a positive attitude all of the time is ridiculously impossible. 

The most successful people know that maintaining a positive outlook has an ebb and flow. It’s not you are optimistic or you are not, there are gradients of happiness.

Keeping a positive attitude is all in the mind.

Does it feel better to look on the bright side? Yes.

So the next time you feel like happiness has taken a hike, try these tips to rekindle your positive attitude. 

1. Start Your Day with Something Positive

Morning affirmations and meditations are wonderful tools to start the day off in the right direction for you. JobAffirmations has tons of positive affirmations including:

These all have words and phrases you can post on a bulletin board, put in your journal (journaling is a great tool) or tape to the bathroom mirror.

Choose 2-3 affirmations to focus on. You can go for a walk, put on a favorite song, dance, sing anything that brings you joy. 

2. Develop a Good Morning Routine

You can really dig into the thought of starting your day off on a positive note by creating a good morning routine.

It doesn’t have to take more than 10-15 minutes, but it can carry you through the whole day.

Routines in themselves can be comforting especially when other facets of your life are in flux. 

3. Eat the Frog in the Morning

Science and the most successful people have proven that you can get more done during the day if you doing that big thing first. 

Mark Twain had a more colorful way to put it. 

A positive attitude can mean a more productive day

Instead of dreading the task and fudging around with distractions, start your day with your biggest task. Have to turn in a report? Knock it out and move on. Need to call an angry client? Call them and give yourself a pat on the back for getting things done.

4. Set your BEGs

People who have a positive attitude for miles also have Big Exciting Goals. Part of positivity is looking forward to the possibilities. Job hunting? Starting your own business? Creating?

There’s got to be something you’ve always wanted to do. Go to the Grand Canyon? Write a book? Learn Japanese? Set a goal. It can be big. But it must, must, must be exciting. Here are a few posts about goals.

If you wake up each morning with nothing to look forward to, your mind may quickly latch onto negative feelings that can last throughout the day.

Give your life focus by setting goals that motivate and excite you. Your enthusiasm for your goal will naturally generate a positive attitude because your goal is really awesome.

5. Write Down Your Goals

Set aside a few minutes this week to write down all the reasons why each goal is important to you.

  • How will you feel when you reach the goal you’ve set?
  • How will your loved ones be affected?
  • How will your quality of life improve?

You would be surprised how writing down your goals solidifies them in your mind. If you are not a writer, video yourself or record your voice stating your goals.

Check out this helpful, less than 7-minute TEDTalk on how NOT to follow your dreams. It points out common misconceptions about BEGs.

6. Get Rid of Debbie Downers

If you want to feel better about your life, hang around people that encourage you and bring out the best in you.

Spend more time with people that make you feel good about yourself and less time with those that complain about everything.

Every cloud has a silver lining and it’s easier to find that silver lining when you hang around people that help you to see it.

Think about who you surround yourself with and put them into one of two categories: The People Who Make You Smile and People Who Don’t. Limit contact with the people who don’t put a smile on your face.

7. When Bad Days Become Weeks It’s Time to Change

When you have a bad day, don’t beat yourself up or dwell on it.

Remember that tomorrow is a new day with exciting possibilities and challenges.

Your next victory is right around the corner if you resolve to start with a fresh perspective. 

Legendary businessman Steve Jobs talked about his criteria for staying the course or changing direction in a 2005 commencement speech at Stanford. He said this:

“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”

8. Put These Steps into Action + Affirmations

Tomorrow, add one positive action to your morning routine that will enhance your mindset. Attempt to add three things to your morning routine by the end of the week.

Track how you did.

Affirmations for a Positive Attitude

Hardships enrich my life.

I rise to the challenge easily.

I look for the silver lining when dark clouds surround me. 

Any situation is a golden opportunity.

I am compassionate with myself so I can help others.

I am grateful for the blessings in my life.

I am a winner. I refuse to give up.

Positive attitude starts in your mind.

Tracey Lamphere

Tracey Lamphere, M.S. IMC is the editor of Job Affirmations, a publication that provides information and ideas to use mindfulness, positive affirmations, and visualizations to transform your career.

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